Stay WOKE!

I do not know who needs to read this BUT...an inconsistent action is a consistent answer.  I learned this lesson recently or at least I can openly admit that I understood this lesson finally.  You know how it can be ladies when you believe you are in love and you finally found the one.  You give benefits of the doubt and tolerate more than you should. We have all been there at one time or another.  The key is to not stay there and to avoid putting yourself in that position again. 

Yes girl, he did it again. But remember the saying, fool me once...shame on you; fool me twice...shame on me. Now let's not forget fool me 3 times...you are just a fool. A fool in love with an undeserving fool and it is time to put yourself first and let it go. 

There is a difference between the person who makes a real effort but makes mistakes at times, and the person who has a recurring issue.  When it is continuous, that is a problem.  Even though actions speak louder than words, the actions and words must be aligned. When the actions and words do not line up, there is a problem.  A lie is being told somewhere. One way or another, it needs to be investigated and should not be ignored.

Today marks my one year anniversary of calling off my 2nd wedding to a man I actually share a 4-year old child with. Mind you, I have never been married before.  I spent 6-years with a man who I been through hell and back. So I am speaking from true experience. I been cheated on countless times, lied on and lied to, we were engaged twice and literally lost thousands of dollars from calling off my dream wedding (luckily it was more his money than mine), I been humiliated publicly, I have had children made on me by him with different women (yes I said children and different women), and I have been disrespected multiple times where he showed women where my children and I live. It hurt beyond explanation. I know the pain and I thank God for the strength to leave when it was easier to stay. I mean you always hear women complaining about there are no good men left so why not stay with the one you already know and mastered. Right? Wrong...girl stay woke. He is out there waiting on you to rid that baggage.  Only a woman who doesn't truly value herself would stay in a relationship full of toxic. I was her and I am so happy I FINALLY woke up.

Still single but I can honestly say that I am happy, at peace and excited to meet my next man.  I am finally at a point where I am healed to where I am comfortable enough to share my truth with hopes to help someone else.  My focus changed from my ex and our failed relationship to my healing and self care.  Taking a year to be single and focusing on healing from the pain and heartache is something I would suggest to anyone preparing to make a step towards their true happily ever after.  Only you will know when you are ready.